Domestic Violence

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Domestic violence occurs in homes throughout every community. It knows no boundaries of color, gender, age, socioeconomic status, or sexual orientation. It happens in all relationships – to married couples, within families, to intimate partners living together, to roommates, and to dating couples. The abuse can be physical, mental, sexual, emotional, financial, verbal, or electronic. Domestic violence is a pervasive, sometimes life-threatening, crime that affects millions of individuals across the United States.

Domestic violence is abusive behavior that is used to control or manipulate another person. Abusive behavior includes any act that intimidates, threatens, manipulates, humiliates, isolates, frightens, terrorizes, coerces, blames, hurts, injures, or wounds someone. These behaviors cause physical harm, arouse fear, and isolate victims making it difficult for them to leave the relationship or get help.

Have you experienced violence by a family member, a cohabitant, an acquaintance, or a stranger? If so, DOVE Center is here to help you. We provide safe shelter and trauma-informed care to achieve empowerment, hope, and independence.

Warning Signs of Abuse in Relationships

  • Jealousy
  • Controlling and possessive actions
  • Quick involvement – strong feelings or commitment early on
  • Unpredictable mood swings
  • Explosive anger
  • Isolates you from friends and family
  • Verbally abusive
  • Breaks, strikes, or throws things when angry
  • Shows hypersensitivity
  • Believes in rigid sex roles
  • Blames others for his/her problems or feelings
  • Cruel to animals or children
  • Abused prior partners
  • Threatens violence (including against self, such as suicide threats)
  • One party makes excuses for partner’s abusive behavior or justifies it when others point it out
  • One party has to account for how he/she spends all of his/her time
  • One party forces the other to engage in unwanted sexual acts
  • Excessive phone calls, text messages, etc.
  • The abused party is visibly worried about his/her partner’s anticipated angry reaction to ordinary events
  • The abused party visibly changes his/her behavior or personality when in the other party’s presence

DV Stats

  • 1 in 3 Utah women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime
  • There is approximately one DV-related homicide each month in Utah
  • Women are 10 times more likely than men to die from domestic violence

(Domestic Violence Fatalities in Utah Report, 2003-2008, health.utah.com)